“O Allah, forgive me, have mercy on me, guide me aright and grant me sustenance.” Ameen
Friday, August 12, 2011
"Oh Allah, teach me to love others just like I love myself, teach me to judge myself just like I judge others. And if I have wronged anyone,give me the courage to apologize, and if anyone wronged me, give me the courage to forgive because you have taught me that forgiveness is the highest level of strength and revenge is the highest level of weakness. And I ask you not to forget me in your forgiveness"♥
If you are rich, follow the merchant of Makkah.
If you are poor, look at the prisoner of the Shi’abe Abi Taalib.
If you are a king, study the life of the ruler of Arabia.
If you are a subject, look at the Quraishi.
If you are a conqueror, look at the conqueror of Badr, Hunayn & Makkah.
If you are defeated, take lesson from the battle of Uhud.
If you are a teacher, look at the holy teacher in the school of Suffah.
If you are a pupil, look at him, who sat before Jibra’eel (A.S.).
If you are a preacher of the gospel of truth, look at the prophet of Makkah.
If you are successful, watch him preach on the pulpit of Madinah.
If you are wishing to be a prosperous business man, look at him who owned the lands of Bani Nazeer, Khaybar and Fadak.
If you are an orphan, do not forget the child of Abdullah and Aaminah.
If you are a young man read the life of Makkah’s shepherd.
If you are a husband, do not forget the husband of hadrat Khadija and Aisha (R.A.).
If you are a father, watch the father of hadrat Faatima (R.A.) and the grand father of Hasan (R.A.) and Hussain (R.A.).
In short whatever you might be, unto the blessed Prophet ﷺ is your guidance.
The Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: Musa, the son of Imran once asked, “Oh my Lord! Who is the most honorable of Your servants? And He replied, the person who forgives even when he is in a position of power” (Baihaqi).
You know you’re right. You know what I’m referring to - those times when you get into an argument(s) with a family member, friend, boss, employee, coworker, classmate, teacher or whoever. You know your facts are right or that you’ve been wronged with an insulting remark, sarcastic comment or rudeness.
And so, you choose to hold a grudge. After all, you’ve got a right to. Nobody should be treated this way. Why should you forgive? You’re not the one who started this. You’re not the one who doesn’t have the facts straight.
True. You may be right. You may be in that position of power mentioned in the Hadith above. But forgiving others, apart from positively affecting our health (less stress) and our minds (one less negative thing to focus on), is a necessary step to closeness to Allah SWT.
How can we move up the ladder of spiritual development when we hold bitterness and anger towards another person? While we may have been in the right, is it worth sacrificing our energy on a grudge instead of on growth?
Is there not something strange about asking for Allah’s forgiveness of our sins while withholding our forgiveness from someone who has hurt us?
One of the distinguishing features of Ramadan is forgiveness. The Prophet ﷺ explained in one Hadith that Ramadan is a month whose beginning is Mercy, whose middle is Forgiveness and whose end is freedom from the Hellfire.
This makes it a great time to ask Allah SWT for His Forgiveness. It’s also a wonderful time to open our hearts and cleanse them of grudges and bitterness by forgiving others.
The path to connection to Allah SWT is always paved with tests and difficulties. Nobody gains spiritual upliftment without having to prove their mettle. This process includes facing all kinds of hardships, including injustice at the hands of others.
If we truly want Allah’s love, mercy and forgiveness, we must remember that the hurts of this world are temporary, and we are working towards that which is permanent. Is it worth being bitter and stunting our growth? Will it really benefit us? How will our anger and bitterness change the person who has hurt us?
Let us use these remaining days of forgiveness this Ramadan to open our hearts to those who have wronged us and forgive them as we beg Allah to forgive us.
Let us use these remaining days of Ramadan to open our hearts to those who have wronged us and forgive them as we beg Allah SWT to forgive us. Aameen.